The following address was given at the graduation commencement on June 5, 2018. A special thanks goes to Emma McKay and Darianna Perez, who sang the verses in brackets.
Congratulations to all members of the Class of 2018!
Parents, honored guests, faculty, friends, and graduates of Smithfield High School’s class of 2018 — It is an honor to be here today at your commencement. Finding the right words was a challenge and so I settled on finding the right songs.
Many of you will never remember who spoke at your high school graduation and I challenge you to ask your parents who spoke at theirs. You will, however, remember the music that played over your high school years. In fact, according to a psychologist from UC Davis, music and memories are integrated in the brain and music actually evokes memory. Moreover, this research suggests that this connection is strongest during adolescence and young adulthood.1 This might be the reason why every generation thinks that the music heard during their youth is the best music ever.
Some of those gathered here today may have been teenagers in the 80’s and 90’s and might want to say to you, “So bring your good times and your laughter too, we’re gonna celebrate your party with you.”2 [Celebration!] “I gotta feeling that tonight’s gonna be a good night”3 [Tonight’s gonna be a good, good night!]
It was fun doing a little research, looking for bits of advice for our graduates in the songs of the past, but, admittedly, I discovered an abundance of “silly love songs,”4 anguishes over lost loves, and charges to “do the twist,”5 “do the mashed potatoes”6 “dance the night away”7 and “put on your red shoes and dance the blues.”8 Among the chatter I found three themes worthy of a graduation address: being yourself, showing resiliency, and pursuing purpose and passion.
Be and find joy in being yourself. “You should know you’re beautiful just the way you are; And you don’t have to change a thing.”9 [beauty goes deeper than the surface Oh, oh, oh-oh-oh] Your elders heard some of the same advice when they were young. Billy Joel, in 1977, sang: “I don’t want clever conversation; I never want to work that hard; I just want someone that I can talk to; I want you just the way you are.”10 Sounds quite a lot like Meghan Trainor’s refrain, “If you got beauty, beauty, just raise ’em up; ‘Cause every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top.”11 Graduates, take Taylor Swift’s advice to “dance [sic] on your own” and when others don’t like it, “just shake it off.”12 [shake it off, shake it off] Remind yourself, you are brave, you are who you’re meant to be, Look out ’cause here you come and you’re marching on to the beat you drum 13 [I’m not scared to be seen I make no apologies, this is me]
Being yourself doesn’t guarantee success so when you encounter a challenge, you’ll need resilience and the support of friends and family to move forward, echoed in the verse of a song that was first recorded in 1972 and that emerged again in 1987, “Sometimes in our lives; We all have pain; We all have sorrow; But if we are wise; We know that there’s always tomorrow”14 15 [Lean on me, when you’re not strong…. I’ll be your friend, I’ll help you carry-on] Mariah Carey echos this sentiment with: “And then a hero comes along; With the strength to carry on; And you cast your fears aside; And you know you can survive; So when you feel like hope is gone; Look inside you and be strong.”16
If you go through life with both integrity and resilience, you’ll also want to find purpose and passion. “Dreaming about bigger things,” “smiling from the stage while” others are “clapping in the nose bleeds; Not a yes sir, not a follower.”17 [Thunder, feel the thunder] “So many times (graduates) it happens too fast; You trade your passion for glory; Don’t lose your grip on the dreams of the past; You must fight just to keep them alive.”18 [It’s the eye of the tiger; It’s the thrill of the fight.] Follow your passion, rather than worrying about what others think. As Huey Lewis reminds us, sometimes “It’s hip to be square.”19
Tonight, graduates, remember to thank those who have “taken you from crayons to perfume.”20 When you get where you’re goin’; Don’t forget turn back around; Help the next one in line; Always stay humble and kind”21
“Life’s a journey not a destination.”22 “You [sic] are young; So set the world on fire; You [sic] can burn brighter than the sun.”23 “Get your motor runnin’ Head out on the highway; Look for adventure”24 [In whatever comes your way] “Look all around, there’s nothing but blue skies” 25 26 “Welcome to your life; There’s no turning back.”27
Graduates, choose the right lyrics to live your lives, be yourself, practice resiliency, and pursue your passion.
1Janata, P., Tomic, S. T., & Rakowski, S. K. (2007). Characterization of music-evoked autobiographical memories. Memory, 15(8), 845–860.
2Bell, R., Smith, C., Brown, G., Taylor, J., Mickens, R., Toon, E., Thomas, D, Bell, R.E., & Deodato, E. (1980). Celebration [Recorded by Kool and the Gang]. On Celebrate! [record]. New York: The Island Def Jam Music Group.
3Adams, W., Ferguson, S., Gomez, J., Guetta, P., Lindo, A., & Riesterer, F. (2009). I Gotta Feeling. [Recorded by The Black Eyed Peas]. On The E.N.D. [record]. Paris, France: Square Prod.
4McCartney, P., McCartney, L. (1976). Silly Love Songs [Recorded by Wings]. On Wings at the Speed of Sound [record]. New York: MPL Communications/Capitol.
5Ballard, H. (1960). The Twist [Recorded by Chubby Checker]. On Twist with Chubby Checker [record]. New York: Parkway Records, Inc.
6Rozier, D. (1959). (Do the) Mashed Potatoes [Recorded by Nat Kendrick and the Swans (sung by James Brown)]. On (Do the) Mashed Potatoes [record]. Miami: Dade Records.
7Van Halen, E., Van Halen, A., Anthony, M. Roth, D. (1979). Dance the Night Away [Recorded by Van Halen]. On Van Halen II [record]. New York: Warner Brothers.
8Bowie, D. (1983). Let’s Dance. [Recorded by David Bowie]. On Let’s Dance [record]. New York: Power Station.
9Caracciolo, A. (2016). Scars to Your Beautiful. [Recorded by Alessia Cara]. On Know-it-All [record]. Santa Monica: Universal Music Group.
10Joel, B. (1977). Just the Way You Are [Recorded by Billy Joel]. On The Stranger [record]. New York: Columbia.
11Trainor, M. & Kadish, K. (2014). All About That Bass [Recorded by Meghan Trainor] on Title [CD]. Nolensville, TN: Carriage House Studios.
12Swift, T., Martin, M., & Shellback. (2014). Shake it Off [Recorded by Taylor Swift] on 1989 [CD]. Nashville: Big Machine.
13Pasek, B. & Paul, J. (2017). This is Me [Recorded by Keala Settle] The Greatest Showman; Original Motion Picture Soundtrack. [Digital Download]. New York City: Atlantic Records.
14Withers, B. (1972). Lean on Me [Recorded by Bill Withers] on Still Bill [Record]. Los Angeles: The Record Plant.
15Withers, B. (1986). Lean on Me [Recorded by Club Nouveau] on Life, Love, & Pain [Record]. Burbank: Warner Brothers.
16Carey, M., & Afanasieff, W. (1993). Hero [Recorded by Mariah Carey] on Music Box [CD]. New York: Columbia.
17Reynolds, D., Sermon, W., McKee, B., Platzman, D. Grant, A., & DeZuzio, J. (2017). Thunder [Recorded by Imagine Dragons] on Evolve [CD]. Los Vegas: Imagine Dragons Studio, Interscope Records.
18Sullivan, F., Peterik, J. (1982). Eye of the Tiger [Recorded by Survivor] on Eye of the Tiger [record]. Nashville: EMI.
19Lewis, H., Gibson, B., & Hopper, S. (1986). Hip to be Square [Recorded by Huey Lewis and the News] on Fore! [record]. United Kingdom: Chrysalis Records.
20Black, D., London, M., & Leander, M. (1967). To Sir With Love [Recorded by Lulu] on To Sir With Love [record]. New York: Epic Records.
21McKenna, L. (2016). Humble and Kind [Recorded by Tim McGraw] on Damn Country Music [studio album]. Nashville: Big Machine Records.
22Tyler, S. & Supa, R. (1993). Amazing [Recorded by Aerosmith] on Get a Grip [CD]. Santa Monica: Geffen.
23Ruess, N., Dost, A., Antonoff, J., & Bhasker, J. (2011). We Are Young [Recorded by Fun] on Some Nights [digital download]. New York: Jungle City Studios and Los Angeles: Village Recorder.
24Bonfire, M. (1968). Born to be Wild [Recorded by Steppenwolf] on Steppenwolf [Album]. New York: RCA.
25Nash, J. (1972). I Can See Clearly Now [Recorded by Johnny Nash] on I Can See Clearly Now [Album]. New York: Epic Records.
26Nash, J. (1972). I Can See Clearly Now [Recorded by Jimmy Cliff] in Cool Runnings [Album]. New York: Columbia Records.
27Orzabal, R., Stanley, I., & Hughes, C. (1985). Everybody Wants to Rule the World [Recorded by Tears for Fears] on Songs From the Big Chair [record]. Chicago: Mercury Records.